by Ilizna | Everything
If you’ve dipped your toes into the world of self-development, you’ve probably stumbled across the concept of the “law of attraction.” It’s everywhere – a recurring theme in countless books, workshops, and motivational speeches. The idea is simple and alluring: dream it, see it, feel it, and then… don’t worry too much about the how. Just trust the universe, and voila! What you desire will come to you.
The Appeal of the Law of Attraction
It’s easy to see why the law of attraction is so appealing. Who doesn’t want to believe that thinking big and feeling good will effortlessly bring all your desires to life? It sounds simple, but there’s a downside.
The Dark Side of the Law of Attraction
The law of attraction can inadvertently promote toxic positivity, victim-blaming, and feelings of guilt and shame. The notion that negative thoughts lead to negative outcomes can leave people feeling responsible for their struggles. Rather than empowering them, it can foster self-doubt and inaction.
As Mark Manson explains in The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, “Negative emotions are a call to action. When you feel them, it’s because you’re supposed to do something.” While thoughts and emotions are not the same, I believe that ignoring negative thoughts is linked to ignoring negative emotions. Both are signals that something needs to be addressed, urging you to take action and make a change.
Vision Boards and Goal Setting: Their Real Purpose
I’m all for dreaming, visualizing, and setting goals. In fact, having a clear vision is crucial—it’s what guides you. But vision boards and goal lists aren’t the entire solution. They’re part of the toolkit, not the whole thing.
The Law of Effection: A Practical Alternative
I agree more with MJ DeMarco’s “law of effection” from The Millionaire Fastlane. This law emphasizes creating value and taking action, rather than relying on just visualization. Your success is built on what you do and the value you bring, not what you wish for.
Action: The Missing Ingredient in Manifestation
Manifesting without action is like planning a road trip and never leaving the driveway. Sure, you know where you’re going, but nothing will happen unless you take the first step and keep moving forward.
Dream Big, But Do the Work
Dreams and goals are important, but consistent action is what makes things happen. Set your vision, but then get to work. Small steps, even when progress is slow, build momentum over time.
A Balanced Approach to Success
While the law of attraction has some value, relying on it alone is not enough. A positive mindset can help, but true success comes from action, not just wishful thinking.
My Takeaway: Action Over Attraction
I’ll continue setting goals and staying motivated, but I’ll focus more on what really matters: taking action, building momentum, and creating value. Because in the end, dreaming is easy – doing is where the magic happens.
by Ilizna | Everything, Goals
You’ve got big dreams and shiny goals – but here’s the question: should you share your goals with others or keep them locked up like a diary? The answer might just transform how you approach success.
The Great Goal Debate: Share or Don’t Share? If you’ve spent any time scrolling through self-help advice, you’ve likely encountered two opposing camps:
- The “Keep It to Yourself” Crew
This crowd believes your goals are sacred. According to their school of thought, sharing your goals:
- Opens the door to negativity (hello, bubble-bursters!).
- Triggers a psychological effect called “goal substitution” – you feel a tiny hit of accomplishment just by talking about it, which can zap your motivation to actually do it.
- The “Share It with the World” Squad
These folks argue that sharing your goals:
- Builds accountability. When others know, you’re less likely to quit.
- Creates opportunities for collaboration and growth. The more input you get, the better your ideas become.
Both Arguments Miss the Point. Here’s where things get interesting. Whether you share or don’t share, focusing too much on this decision is a distraction. The real problem? It pulls you away from what actually matters: doing the work.
My Take: Stop Overthinking, Start Doing. Forget about whether to announce your goals to the world or keep them private. Instead, adopt this mindset:
- Do the work first. When you’re in action mode, the goal naturally takes shape. Whether you’ve shared it or not becomes irrelevant because progress speaks louder than words.
- Let results do the talking. If sharing your wins feels right in the moment, do it. If not, keep building behind the scenes. The key is to stay focused on what moves the needle.
How to Focus on Action Over Decisions. Here are three steps to keep you on track:
- Set “Actionable” Goals
Goals like “get healthy” or “build a business” are too vague. Instead, break them down into actionable steps. For example, “exercise 3 times a week” or “create a business plan by the end of the month.”
- Start Small, but Start Now
Don’t let analysis paralysis stop you. Whether it’s a 10-minute brainstorming session or drafting a single email, progress compounds over time.
- Track Progress, Not Opinions
Use a journal, app, or checklist to monitor what you’ve accomplished. It’s about measuring your growth, not gathering applause.
The Bottom Line
The next time you’re tempted to post your big dreams or keep them tightly guarded, ask yourself: Am I using this as an excuse to procrastinate? Remember, the secret to achieving your goals isn’t about who knows or doesn’t know. It’s about what you do, consistently.
So, don’t worry about whether to share. Lace up your sneakers, open your laptop, or grab that paintbrush. The world doesn’t need your announcement; it needs your action.
by Ilizna | Everything, Goals
Does This Week Feel Like Last Week?
Here’s a tough question for you: Is this week shaping up to be a repeat of last week? Same routines, same habits, same results? And yet, are you expecting different outcomes? Let me tell you, that stuck, sinking feeling you’re experiencing is a call to action for change.
And that brings me to the first truth I wish every woman knew: you need goals. Without a goal, you’re a ship drifting in the ocean. No wind, no waves, just floating—getting nowhere fast. Worse still, it doesn’t matter how productive you are at doing no-purpose, no-goal tasks. Without a direction, all that effort is wasted energy.
What Goal? Just Pick One That Sparks You
Now, you might be thinking, What goal? Here’s the liberating part: it doesn’t need to be earth-shattering or perfect. If it excites you—if it lights a tiny fire inside and nudges you closer to the person you want to become—then it’s a great place to start. Want to feel healthier? Want a career change? Want to write a book, run a marathon, or finally get that promotion? All good goals. But without naming a goal, you’ll stay stuck on the hamster wheel, spinning and frustrated.
So, pause here. Name your goal. Write it down. Make it real.
The Mountain of Starting
Now for part two: the action. The idea of starting can feel like climbing Everest. You want to get fit, but where do you even begin? You hate your job, but updating your CV feels overwhelming. You dream of writing a book, but the thought of the blank page and finding time is enough to paralyze you.
Here’s the secret: don’t overcomplicate it. Just take the first step. Start small. It doesn’t need to be perfect or pretty; it just needs to happen. Let’s break it down:
- Fitness Goal: Put on your shoes and go for a walk. Or sign up for a fitness class. Don’t think too hard about it.
- Career Goal: Dust off that CV and email it to one company today. Just one.
- Writing Goal: Open your laptop and write one sentence. Yes, just one. That’s the start.
Momentum begins when you move. Finetuning, strategizing, and perfecting—that comes later. But right now? Just start. Action is the magic.
Stop Waiting for the Lucky Break
The biggest mistake I see women make is waiting. Waiting for the perfect moment. Waiting for someone to swoop in and save them. Waiting for a “lucky break.” But here’s the truth: you already have what you need to take the next step. No knight in shining Lamborghini is coming. You are the hero of this story.
My Challenge to You
Ladies, I’m challenging you today. Be clear about your goal. Choose something that excites you and feels like progress. Then tackle that first, simple step—today. No excuses. No procrastination. Just one action. Because here’s the truth: success isn’t about massive leaps. It’s about consistent, small steps.
Your future self is waiting for you on the other side of that first move. Go meet her. She’s amazing.
My Challenge to You
Ladies, I’m challenging you today. Be clear about your goal. Choose something that excites you and feels like progress. Then tackle that first, simple step – today. No excuses. No procrastination. Just one action. Because here’s the truth: success isn’t about massive leaps. It’s about consistent, small steps.
There’s no magic here or anywhere – and that, in itself, is the magic.
Just start.
